I am still not quite finished with my holiday shopping. I have a few more gifts to purchase this week, and sometimes this late in the game I am starting to get a bit exhausted with the process of deciding what is the right gift, completing the purchase, and then wrapping and preparing for the give-away. I fight the slacker in me that wants to just get it done and who is willing to cut corners so that I can hunker down with a good book and begin my holiday hibernation. I hear from others that they too sometimes feel like it all can get to be too much; finding the perfect gift that will be well used and loved by those who receive it. I love gift giving and it made me sad yesterday to realize I was letting my attitude get in the way of giving my best. But what really stopped me in my tracks, was the realization that this attitude sometimes extends beyond those last few holiday gifts. Sometimes I bail on giving my very best gifts because I run out of steam.
This awareness had been building inside me all week, the seed of which was planted during a coaching call earlier. I have this amazing client who I have been coaching for six months, and recently I have experienced this strange phenomena where whatever she is working on becomes a profound lesson for me too. She was sharing this idea of how important it is to be clear about which situations must be seen as critical moments to make a significant impact. It isn’t that it was a new idea exactly, but coupled with my holiday exhaustion blues it caused me to pause. I had this OMG moment when I realized that I am letting moments go by that I should be taking a bit more seriously. I am letting myself get caught in the minutia of the end of the year drill and not taking the best gifts I have to offer, and serving them up to create an extraordinary moment. And if this is happening now, how often does it play itself out during the rest of the year?
I know myself, and I am a big doer from way back. It’s easy to let the million things on my to-do list get in the way of stepping back and then stepping in with the best I have to offer. Don’t misunderstand my message here; it is not about being on the naughty list and looking for a way to correct my behavior. I don’t intend to dwell on my past shortcomings but I do plan to use this insight to propel me into the future. My holiday gift to you is to ask you to join me in remembering now and in the New Year to:
- Be present to what is most important now
- Listen to and care for your body…without it you can’t do what you are meant to
- Recognize and fully use your unique gifts and talents (if not you than whom?)
- Live your purpose in 2014
Happy Holidays and Warm Wishes for a prosperous New Year!
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Deb Siverson is a seasoned executive coach, certified as a PCC through the International Coach Federation. If you want to schedule time to discuss how you or your organization can increase engagement by having a different conversation at work, contact us now.