by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander
In a lively, sensible manual for turning life’s obstacles into possibilities, the Zanders introduce various “tools” for transformation, drawing on their extensive experiences with musicians, students and patients in therapy (Rosamund is a psychotherapist and painter; Benjamin is the conductor of the Boston Philharmonic). In a chapter entitled “Giving an A,” for example, Benjamin relates a classroom technique that allows students to envision their own futures: all students in his class receive an A if they write him a postdated letter relating “the story of what will have happened to you by next May that is in line with this extraordinary grade.” Other chapters emphasize practices such as thinking in terms of making a personal “contribution” rather than stark “success or failure”; “lightening up” in order to see a problem from a new perspective (e.g., a patient of Rosamund’s was able to have a sensual experience with her husband even though she was angry at him); and reassessing “frameworks for possibility” (e.g., a teacher shaved her head in order to “reframe the meaning” of a hairless class member who had leukemia). The authors’ emphasis on “practice,” the importance of “flow” and the joy in creation and expression is apt and often truly inspiring. Although not groundbreaking, the Zanders’ suggestions constitute sound, practical advice that has much in common with Zen concepts of holism, balance and grace.